Why it's important to show the world who you truly are
May 17, 2017
It’s quite incredible what climbing a mountain can teach you about yourself…
Last, I crossed off an item that has been sitting on my bucket list for a while. I finally climbed the Tongariro Crossing!
It was an epic girls’ weekend shared with 9 amazing women - some I knew, some I meet for the first time.
It began (and so did the laughter) as a road trip from Wellington ending in Ohakune where we were meeting the rest of the climbing crew at our shared accommodation… and when I say shared, I mean some quite literally shared… their beds!
There was 10 of us and only 2 units, one with 3-bedrooms the other with two. Only two of those rooms had single beds.
Hilarious sleepover party, anyone!
Humour is always a great connector, and these babe’s had plenty of that.
Our day on the mountain was incredible. From raucous belly laughing and a lot of poo talk (that’s what happens when you need to go, and the toilet is 5 hours away!), to beautiful kindness and support showed when anyone needed encouragement to keep walking up yet another incline!
There’s so much we can learn about ourselves when we go on adventures like this, like how:
- Our minds can limit us from so much
- It’s possible to distract our minds enough to take us places we never thought we could go
- Human connection is essential to our overall health
- We discover things about ourselves that we didn’t know
It was on our drive back home that the last point really hit home for me.
One of my friends said they’d learned more about me during our trip to the mountain than they had in a couple of years of knowing me.
They were surprised that I can be so goofy and hilarious, and that I swear like a trooper. “OMG... they were so right. All this time my friends saw me as someone who is poised, collected, and so very put together. But that's how I feel most of the time.
Then I realised, I'd been holding back a HUGE part of my personality for fear of being judged or rejected. And it’s been so energy draining.
You see, I love humour, and I’m a bit goofy. I was always cast in the comedy roles in school musicals and making people laugh makes me feel happy.
If I could be a famous actor, it’d be a tie between Rose Byrne or Melissa McCarthy… and I’d love to be cast in Bridesmaids!
I do swear! I think a well placed F-bomb dropped at just the right time can be super effective.
But I had it in my head that being a grown-up, with a grown-up job meant I had to suppress the goof and keep my language clean.
WHY? Was what my friends asked, It’s who you truly are!
And that was a good question.
I wasn’t showing 100% of who I really was.
We all carry limiting self-beliefs about ourselves. Stories that have been layered on us by other people.
Before a boy made fun of my goofy side and my Mother said, Swearing is a sign of no intelligence; I was perfectly ok with this side of me.
Are you doing this too… holding back parts of your personality for fear that others might think you’re not good enough in some way?
It does take courage to let shit go and just be you (I’m having heart palpitations just writing the word shit) … but the freedom that comes with it is unbelievable.
Your limiting self-beliefs stop you from being the true you.
When you give all of yourself when you’re unafraid of the judgement that might come because of it, and when you welcome the love and acceptance you might get without fear, you'll find so much freedom and from that comes more happiness and peace.
Until next time, may you be replete with love,